We decided to rent an apartment so we would have plenty of room and privacy during the trip. That was the first big mistake – the owner of the apartment was still living there when we arrived and wanted us to share the apartment with him for the week. I immediately said no and that we would find other accommodation – my “friend” told him it would be fine! I was stunned and felt very vulnerable and insisted that we go to a hotel.
We found a lovely small hotel in Central Paris that would be perfect for our stay. I did tell her (more than once) that we needed to be cautious about our belongings and personal safety while we were there. Neither of us spoke French very well – although she thought she did and proceeded to insult almost everyone she spoke to.
As we headed out to see the sights, I told her that we needed to take all of our valuables (passports, money etc.) with us or leave them at the front desk. I left the do not disturb sign on the door and we were on our way. It was a lovely day and I was sure the drama was behind us and our trip could officially begin. When we returned to the hotel someone had been in our room and gone through all of our things. I was very surprised when she said that not only had she left all of her valuables in the room (some of which were now missing) but she had mentioned to a nice person in the hallway that we were leaving for the entire day! To say I was surprised is an absolute understatement; this was an otherwise intelligent woman who was clearly out of her element and making both of us unsafe!
That was just the beginning; this woman was the classic American tourist. Everything from carrying her Rick Steve’s book to wanting to go in secluded areas after dark, she was a walking target. She grew tired of my trying to educate her on safety and ultimately went off on her own. Fortunately, we were able to get back home safe and sound but not before we had a few more episodes – like her arguing with Customs getting back into the US.
That trip was a great example of why I travel alone. You really don’t know someone until you have traveled with them. Perhaps I should have titled this – who not to go anywhere with! The ultimate lesson for me is to be far more selective about my travel companions in the future.