Monday, November 18, 2013

Homeplace

Have you ever been somewhere that feels so familiar that it instantly feels like home?  That place you feel so attached to even though you’ve never been there before, for me that place is Ireland.  From my very first visit I was deeply moved by the beauty of the country and the people but it was the connection I felt that was so unbelievable. 

Driving along those narrow roads, I almost seemed to know my way.  It wasn’t until I returned home that I understood something had changed and that I would never be the same.  I may not have been born there but it is certainly the homeplace of my heart.

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Change your routine and be safe

Sometimes when we travel we get very complaisant – especially if we are travelling for work or spend a lot of time in the same place.  As creatures of habit, I think it is totally normal to get into a daily routine when we are away from home.  For me it is usually getting up at the same time, having my morning coffee or tea before going downstairs for breakfast and then out for the day. 

The problem occurs when we get distracted or lose sight of our surroundings.  I was talking with my daughter last night who also travels a lot with her job about a scary experience she had at her hotel.  After coming back from work, she was checking her phone and didn’t pay much attention to the man on the elevator until he got off on her floor instead of his own and followed her down the hall.  Feeling panicked she rushed into her room and closed the door.   In hindsight, she knew that was not a good idea and wished she had reacted differently but the reality is most of us are so surprised by those situations that we instinctually go to our home even if it is a hotel room.  It’s like closing the front door on your house – you just feel safer being in your own place. 

I have had the same experience and reacted the same way more times than I care to admit but what I did learn was to change my behavior, especially when I am away from home.  I have developed a new routine so when something makes me feel uncomfortable I don’t have to think about it, I can react in a way that keeps me safe and does not make me more vulnerable. 

I pay a lot of attention to who is around me especially on elevators and generally strike up a brief conversation.  It’s nice to chat with people but it also ensures they know that you could identify them if you had to.  At any moment that I feel the slightest discomfort, I stop and pretend I’ve lost something and need to go back to reception or some other public area, I do not go to my room.  Even at home I drive down the street instead of going into my garage if anything seems strange.  I do this so often now that it is second nature to me and I don’t have to try to figure it out when something does happen.   

In “The Gift of Fear” Gavin DeBecker talks about listening to our intuition instead of ignoring it and how to spot the signals of potential danger.  I think this is a must read for all women, especially those who travel alone.